Organizing Expectations Helps the Flow
"I. Don't. Like. Change"!
But this is the way it's ALWAYS been! We've NEVER done it any other way!
In this season of traditions, celebrations...and monkey wrenches we need to seek out alternate arrangements when our normal way of doing things is just not going to work.
Let's look at some ways that we can rework the old in the upcoming season:
Changing locations can be unsettling. Can't gather at Aunt Minnie's this year?
Have Aunt Minnie bring one of her traditional dishes in one of her holiday plates.
Try to replicate Aunt Minnie's menu with different family members bringing a dish or two.
The celebration may not look the same, but the tastes, aromas and feelings don't have to change.
Additional guests and you have no room at the table?
How about moving the furniture around and having a buffet?
People will mingle differently than at a sit-down dinner. It may just be fun.
The worst: The first year, and probably many subsequent years, after losing a loved one is so hard.
No one can tell another how to grieve and maybe the traditions will continue the same, or maybe they will change drastically.
Be patient with one another's reactions.
Perhaps tell entertaining stories about your loved one while gathered around.
No matter how you get through it, just know that you did.
Go with the flow. Be fluid.
Contact me for suggestions and alternative plans. Happy to help!
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